| PROFILES
AND CONTACTING OTHER SWINGERS |
As many of you may be new to the swinging scene, we thought that a little
general guidance on "First Contact" etiquette would be useful to you.
ADVERTISERS:
PLACING
A PROFILE: When placing your Personal Profile (Advert) on our (or any other)
website, always be honest. Offer as much detail about yourselves and your needs
as you can. This will save others from having to guess about you and your requirements
- and help to cut down on unwanted communication from people or matches that will
only prove to be totally unsuitable to you (or visa versa).
Our site is design
for discrete, anonymous contact, so, whilst emails are send directly to you, your
email address will not be visible to the user. This leaves the ball in your court
and prevents abuse of our site or "address harvesting". We further suggest
you do not include your telephone number or any other direct contact info,
unless you're prepared to accept all the consequences of such an action (ie. Constant
calls day and night).
PHOTOGRAPHS:
It is always a good idea to include a photo with you advert whenever you can.
Firstly they get a much better response than those without, and secondly, they
help others make a more informed decision and again save lots of wasted time from
both sides. When it comes to photographs, you should show your body and if you're
not too shy, your face. Too many advertisers think they have to show off their
private parts, but this is certainly not true and in fact does nothing to help
the respondent in their decision. Couples should always try and place a photo
of both parties, not just the male or female.
# If you do not have a scanner
or a suitable photo on your computer, then click
here.
REPLIES: When you do get your e-mails, make sure you
are kind enough to reply to all the letters you receive from respondents. Many
will have spent time plucking up the courage to write to you, as well as thinking
of the right thing to say to get you to notice them. First contact need not necessarily
be a long letter, but just enough to let them know of your interest - or lack
of it, as the case may be. A short note saying something along the lines of "Thank
you for your response, but regrettably you do not match what I am currently looking
for, better luck next time …" will at least let the respondent know they have
been acknowledged, even if they have not met your requirements.
RESPONDENTS:
If you are replying to a profile that you feel is suitable to you, always read
the ad carefully and then reply being polite and honest. Tell the advertiser what
you like about their ad and why you think you will meet their requirements. Never
waste other people's time by responding to profiles you know are not for you.
If they write back to you and ask that you enclose a picture of yourself, always
show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia.
If they like the look of you, they may then ask for another picture or two in
exchange for their own, even a nude one if they want it.
Keep the language
clean too. Ideally you should match your response to the ad. Don't go straight
in with a hardcore letter, as this is the quickest way to get rejected by most
genuine swingers. If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting
them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just
move on to the next advertiser's profile.
| TERMINOLOGY
OFTEN USED BY SWINGERS |
Many people, especially
those new to the scene, do not quite understand the meaning of many of the acronyms
(abbreviations) used with personal profiles. Therefore we have gathered a list
of the most popular ones in order to help you.
AC/DC |
Person
who enjoys sexual activity with people of both same sex as well as of the opposite
sex. - Also known as Bi or Bisexual. | |
ADULT |
Euphemism
for pornographic. | |
ANAL |
Anal
intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture. | |
ARTS |
Euphemism
for fetishes; Cultures | |
B&D |
Bondage
and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE) | |
BBW |
Big
Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are
still very attractive. | |
BI |
Bisexual:
Versatile (see AC/DC) | |
BI-CURIOUS |
A
Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities. |
| BIZARRE |
Unusual
sexual desires or fantasies. | |
BONDAGE |
A
sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps
are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing
the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is
considered "submissive." | |
CAN
ACCOMMODATE |
Advertiser
willing to invite others to their home for swinging. |
| CAN
TRAVEL |
Advertiser
willing to travel to your home to swing. | |
CANING
- (CP) |
A
spanking (CP) fetish employing the use of a light cane to the buttocks - (usually
of bamboo or other light wood). | |
CHEATING |
Sexual
activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent - not usually tolerated. |
| CLEAN |
Hygienic;
Free of sexually transmitted diseases. | |
CLOSED
DOOR
or CLOSED SWINGING |
Sexual
interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage
or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging.
The rooms are almost ways in the same house/hotel. | |
CLOSET
SWINGER |
A
person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. |
| COUPLE |
In
swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabiting), committed
(on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes. |
| CULTURE |
Euphemism
for Fetish, Arts. | |
FRENCH
CULTURE: |
Oral
sex | | GREEK
CULTURE: |
Anal
sex | | ROMAN
CULTURE: |
Sexual
orgies | |
SWEDISH
CULTURE: |
Use
of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another |
| CUNNILINGUS |
Stimulation
of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes
the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE) | |
DILDO |
An
artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of
the vagina and sometimes the anus. | |
DIRECTOR |
The
term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing
club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible
for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager. |
| DISCIPLINE |
A
sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant.
Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical
restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings. (Also see Caning - CP) |
| DISCREET
OR DISCRETION |
Asking
those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may
open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging
activity | |
DOCILE |
Willing
to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE). |
| DOMESTIC
TRAINING |
Submissive
obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature. |
| DOMINANT |
A
sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner. |
| EXHIBITIONIST |
A
person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing
sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts. Often enjoys being naked
outdoors or in public. | |
FELLATIO |
Sexual
stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes
teeth. | |
FETISH |
Sexual
arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital
anatomy. | |
FLAGELLATION |
Sexual
stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking |
| FUN
AND GAMES |
Euphemism
for sexual activity. | |
GAY |
A
homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian. |
| GBM |
Gay
Black Male | |
GENEROUS |
Refers
to money for sex. | |
GROUP
ROOM |
Room
set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads.
Term is prevalent in the western USA | |
GROUP
SEX |
Swinging;
Sexual activity between three or more people. | |
GWM |
Gay
White Male | |
HARD
CORE |
A
swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected. |
| HARD
SWINGING |
(see
HARD CORE) | |
HEAD |
Oral-genital
sexual activity; "Giving head" | |
HEDONIST |
Someone
who lives for pleasure. | |
HETEROSEXUAL |
Sexual
attraction to members of the opposite sex. | |
HOMOSEXUAL |
Sexual
attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY) | |
HORNY
. |
Sexually
tense; In need of sexual pleasure | |
HUNG |
Refers
to a man with a large penis. | |
HWP |
Height-Weight
Proportionate; Someone at their ideal body weight. | |
INDOOR
SPORTS |
Swinging
activities in general. | |
INTERESTED
IN FRIENDSHIP |
Seeks
a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values. |
| IRL |
In
Real Life; Used in ads or online chat | |
ISO |
In
Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female | |
LEATHER |
A
fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments. |
| LESBIAN |
A
woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. |
| LTR |
Long
Term Relationship | |
MARITAL
AIDS |
Dildos,
vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others. |
| MASOCHISM |
Sexual
gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others. |
| MASTER/SLAVE |
Participants
in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (See B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE) |
| MATROOM |
Room
set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM). |
| MEET
FOR PLEASURE |
Will
meet for swinging sex; no pretence for social or emotional interaction not directly
related to sexual activity | |
MENAGE
A' TROIS |
Three
people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May
involve an ongoing emotional relationship of the participants. {See THREESOME,
TRIAD) | |
MORESOMES |
More
than three people in a swinging interaction. | |
MBC |
Married
Black Couple | |
MBiC |
Married
Bisexual Couple | |
MWC |
Married
White Couple | |
NEWCOMERS |
New
people in swinging; First-timers | |
NON-SMOKER |
Does
not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought
for swinging purposes. | |
OPEN
SWINGING |
A
couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating
couples together in the same room; (Western U S) swing party where participants
socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group
sex during the progress of the party | |
ORGY |
Sexual
interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex. |
| PARTY |
Gathering
of three or more people of both sexes for swinging. |
| PARTY
CLOTHES |
Clothing
particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear
to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth
wraparounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to
best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for
erotic courting and play. | |
PASSIVE |
Quiet,
submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and
submissive in swinging. (See DISCIPLINE) | |
PHOTO |
Interested
in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of
others. | |
PHOTOGRAPHY |
Interested
in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, colour slides
or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in
meeting with others for the making of these photographs. |
| PRO |
Professional;
i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts. | |
RECREATIONAL
SWINGER |
A
person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire
for emotional attachment. | |
RESTRAINT |
Mild
bondage used in sexual fantasy enactment. | |
ROMAN |
Group
sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see CULTURE, ROMAN) |
| RUBBER |
Condom
means of contraception; sexual
stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with
B&D. | |
SAFE |
Used
to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy. |
| S.A.E. |
Self-addressed
stamped envelope. (Back in the days before email!) | |
SBF |
Single
Black Female | |
SBiF |
Single
Bisexual Female | |
SBM |
Single
Black Male | |
S&M |
Sadism
and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM). | |
SINGLE |
A
swinger without a partner, single or married. | |
SOCIAL |
A
party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine,
for swingers to meet and socialise. There is no swinging at a social, but privately
arranged swinging may follow a social. | |
SOCIAL
SWING CLUB |
A
swing club, generally private membership, that offers social and swinging activities
including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer
educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either
party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance
may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely
important. | |
SOFT
SWINGING |
The
term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter
up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The
first experience for many new couples is quite often some type of soft-swinging.
(See HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE). | |
SRS |
Same
Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING). | |
STD |
Sexually
Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the
latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social
and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted
diseases as a medical problem. | |
STR
or STR8 or STRAIGHT |
Any
person who is not interested in same sex sexual activity or A person who does
not use drugs. | |
SWAPPING |
Two
couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. | |
SWF |
Single
White Female | |
SWING
MAGAZINE |
A
periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of
people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles
of general interest to the swinging community | |
SWINGING |
Social-sexual
relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but
single men and women sometimes are involved. | |
SWINGING
LIFESTYLE |
Style
of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business
and social life, and intimate relationships. | |
SWINGING
MARRIAGE |
Marriage
incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals. |
| SWM |
Single
White Male | |
SUBMISSIVE |
(see
PASSIVE) | |
THREESOME |
Three
people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same
as a "menage a' trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement
and a continuing relationship. | |
TICKET |
A
person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to
gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to
swing. | |
TOYS |
Sexual
aids (see MARITAL AIDS) | |
TRAVEL |
(see
CAN TRAVEL) | |
TRIAD |
Three
people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional
and sexual involvement. Not the same as a "threesome", which generally
refers to a one-night stand. | |
TRIOLISM |
Used
in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common
but confusing usage (see TRIAD) | |
UTOPIAN
SWINGER |
A
person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals. |
| VASECTOMY |
Surgical
procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile. |
| VERSATILE |
Bisexual.
(See AC/DC) | |
VIBRATOR |
Electrically
run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to
outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped
and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are
run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men
and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another. |
| VOLUPTUOUS |
Fullness
of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts;
may also refer to full, well formed hips. | |
VOYEUR |
A
person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts. | |
| GENERAL
ETIQUETTE AND RULES FOR SWINGERS |
All of us want to be successful as swingers. It doesn't matter how often, with
whom, where, or in what style we swing. One of the nicest things about our lifestyle
is that most of us relate to each other with understanding, thoughtfulness, and
common courtesy; just as we ourselves wish to be treated. Think C.S.A.S.C. (Common
Sense and Social Courtesy). If you employ the following suggestions or adapt them
to your own situation, you should become a welcome participant.
BE
COURTEOUS
Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of insecurities,
uncertainties and fears. Courteously is how we all want to be treated - with kindness,
thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is our treating
people the way we ourselves want to be treated. Remember the Golden and Silver
rules.
BE FRIENDLY
Whether or not
you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You never know,
you may share many other interests or you may meet that person again, and they
may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share
time.
RESPOND TO ALL INVITATIONS
RSVP
means please reply to the invitation. It does NOT mean reply only if you plan
to attend. The most frustrating part of hosting, be it a party, a group or another
couple, is people who are discourteous enough not to respond, PERIOD. Good etiquette
and good social courtesy DEMAND you respond, by either calling or writing to say
yes OR no.
NEVER ARRIVE EMPTY HANDED
When you go to someone's home for a party, ask if there is something you can bring.
(It's amazing how many supplies, other than just food, are used up at an average
party.) If you are not going as a couple, a house-gift is appropriate (and not
necessarily wine.)
GO PREPARED
Take
whatever you personally are going to need with you. Carry a small overnight bag
for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, intimate cleansing
articles, condoms, etc ... If you plan to stay over, sleeping bags or blankets
and pillows are necessities.
CLEANLINESS
Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or
un-fresh breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home,
it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination.
It is amazing what time to drive somewhere, stop for a bite, or whatever, can
do or rather UNDO.
RESPECT OTHERS FEELINGS
Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations, Keep your eyes open for
signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves.
If someone is not comfortable, try helping him or her over the rough spots. Remember,
you were a beginner once yourself. If it is obvious that things are not working
out, remain polite and courteous; but alert the host. Keep in mind that not all
people feel the same about things.
DON'T BE PUSHY
If you are interested in swinging with someone, let him or her know in an inviting
way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and
say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your
part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the
right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget
that.
ONLY DO WHAT IS FUN FOR YOU
Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not
interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are
not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what
you want, when you want and with whom you want.
HOW
AND WHY TO SAY NO
One of the basic etiquette's in swinging is the
right of anyone to say "No". Experience has taught most people that everybody
is not right for everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, can however
lead to a lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts the premise
that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it should be
done with a simple "No thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is
what usually causes the problems and the pain.
ALCOHOL
OR DRUGS
Most of us do not use drugs, although some of us drink
socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over indulging
may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off
to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate in swinging, you are
involved in the wrong lifestyle.
PRACTICE SAFER SEX
It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present
concern over sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhoea, aids,
yeast infection, etc.., the use of condoms should not offend anybody. Anyone not
willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly. You are
not being accused of being unclean, but simply someone wishes to provide you both
with protection.
CALL TO SAY THANKS
Most people only use the telephone if they are going to go somewhere. Lost seems
to the social ambience of a 'Thank You Note' or phone call to someone whose hospitality
you enjoyed. It means a lot to most people, and they will surely remember you
when planning their next event. Don't you like to be thanked?
BE
GOOD HOSTS
When you have people coming to your home, try to anticipate
their needs: put clean sheets on the beds; keep plenty of clean washcloths and
towels available. Show your guests through the house so that they will know where
the bathrooms, kitchen, and other rooms are located.
ANSWERING
ADS
All replies to an ad should be answered in two weeks even if
it is a polite "No thanks". Remember, not all people you write to will be interested
in you or your partners sexual heroics. A first letter should include a brief
description of yourselves, where you saw the ad, your ad number and your social
and sexual interests. If by regular post rather than email, a SAE should be included
with your original reply as many couples receive a large number of replies, which
can be costly to reply to.
ENJOY YOURSELF
Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality
and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and
a positive attitude.
| ETIQUETTE
AT SWINGERS PARTIES | Adult
parties have been booming in the UK over the last few years as more and more couples
decide to relax their inhibitions and explore their sexuality. However, as with
all social experiences, there are some definite DO's and DONT'S. A little common
courtesy goes a long way to smoothing what can be, at times, (especially for beginners)
a slightly awkward experience. Illegal substances are prohibited at responsible
swing clubs and private parties. MAKE
A RESERVATION
Let your hosts know that you are coming. If you find
you can't go after having made a reservation, call back and cancel. It makes it
a lot easier to plan the proper amount of food and keep track of who hasn't arrived
yet when I know how many guests to expect. Don't take someone to a swing party
who is not fully informed as to the nature of the party and their expected behaviour.
LOOKING GOOD
Attractive but casual party
clothes are best. Good grooming is a must. Be aware of your body and take care
of it. Few things kill the mood more quickly than body odour. Also be aware of
your kisses tasting of cigarettes or liquor. Keep money, jewellery and other valuables
at a minimum. Don't eat, drink or smoke in any bedroom.
BE
YOURSELF
People are interested in YOU, so relax and be yourself.
This doesn't mean you should be a 'prat' and disrespect others, it means you should
"let your hair down." Also, whether or not you're interested in partying with
someone or a couple in particular, remember to always be polite. You may have
other things in common and develop quite a friendship despite your initial reaction.
In swinging, as in the rest of life, our relationships can change with people
over time and through them you might meet someone with whom you wish to be intimate.
BE COURTEOUS
The lifestyle can raise certain,
valid insecurities, uncertainties and fears. You're not always going to find people
that share the exact same views that you do. Always try to be aware of other people's
comfort levels, especially your partner. In a group party situation, a friendly
"hello" can work wonders to ease someone's discomfort, and if you find that your
interests are in different directions, or any attractions aren't mutual, remember
to remain polite, as you would certainly wish to be treated. When meeting a potential
partner/s the same applies: be polite, even if you don't think there's any potential
for intimacy, you could still have a great time anyway. Keep an open mind.
RELAX and GET ACQUAINTED
When at an on-premise
club or swing house party, you are there to have the best of times and to share
the uninhibited enjoyment associated with those who have discovered a new dimension
in their lifestyles. Once you have become familiar with the surroundings and staff
members or host/hostess, try to become as at ease as you would be at any other
social gathering. Don't hesitate to introduce yourselves to other people. You'll
find them eager to welcome you and to help you blend into their circle of sincere
camaraderie.
SOME TIPS ON ETIQUETTE
While you are advised to be congenial and outgoing, don't be "pushy". Many couples
who are new to "swinging" often have unrealistic expectations and are not prepared
to handle rejections that may sometimes occur. Freshly showered, perfumed, and
neatly dressed people make more contacts. Don't let your personal physical idiosyncrasies
stop you from having a good time. No one is perfect [although it is common for
new "swingers" to see others as more attractive or more verbal as themselves].
Don't let your own mind be your worst enemy. Be prepared to handle rejection but
don't take it personally. It is important to remember that
PERSONAL
CHOICE
is the right of every individual and to 'respect that right'
is only common courtesy. Learn how to accept "no thank you" graciously. Your approach
-- which should be the same as it would be at any social setting -- is a key factor
to your acceptance as a desirable partner/friend. There are several variations
to "swinging" and it is important that you and your mate decide, in advance, those
that you like and dislike. Some couples prefer to be alone, while others prefer
to be with other couples. Establish your own ground rules, but please decide on
them BEFORE you start "swinging".
JOIN THE CONVERSATION
Some people will probably "break the ice" by introducing themselves, along with
other couples they know. It's their way of making you feel at home. Feel free
to join their conversation and you'll find that most of them will be happy to
answer any questions you may have about the "swinging" lifestyle. Be open and
honest. Tell them that you are new to "swinging" and you'll discover how helpful
people can be.
START OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT
On your first venture into the swinging scene, you may feel somewhat uneasy about
seeing your mate with someone else. Some "swingers" want to share swinging with
their mate and feel uneasy having their mate leave to another room with someone.
Everyone has their own reasons for their feelings and all feelings are real and
should be respected. To avoid embarrassment or disillusionment, discuss your inhibitions
with your mate beforehand. Both of you may be more comfortable after talking to
other couples and learning how they handled their first "swinging" session.
DON'T PUSH
Remember, "NO" means "NO."
Anyone has the right to refuse your advances as you have the right to refuse theirs.
Don't expect or ask for any explanation, in this lifestyle an initial "no" will
seldom change to "yes" no matter how much persuasion you apply. Not everyone will
match perfectly and an improperly handled situation can result in hurt feelings.
If there's someone that you would like to be intimate with, let them know in a
friendly manner and accept their response -- whatever it may be. If they change
their mind, they'll let you know. Everyone has the right of refusal. Only ask
those you want to say "yes." If they say "no," take it graciously. When you say
"yes" to others, be honest and enthusiastic. When you say "no," be tactful and
courteous.
PRACTICE SAFE SEX
Practising
safe sex is, of course, a person's choice. But it's a very important choice --
this is 2002 after all. Anyone's decision to use condoms should be politely accepted.
Anyone not willing to accept this decision is acting irresponsibly and disrespectfully.
If someone's willing to be intimate with you, you owe them the simple courtesy
of respecting their comfort level.
ENJOY YOURSELF!!
Adult partying is about having a good time. Live out some fantasies, explore your
sexuality and enjoy! This lifestyle has plenty to offer with clothes on as well
as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a sense of humour. A Good mental
attitude and emotional health will make you popular. The person with the smile,
ready laugh and an obvious interest in others is the person others like to be
around. |
